>I’m a big movie fan. My favorites are the big science fiction blockbusters like Transformers and Star Trek. I also love Sandra Bullock movies, well, ever since she did “Witches” with Nicole Kidman. I have also enjoyed a few Hugh Grant flicks like, “Music and Lyrics” with Drew Barrymore and “Notting Hill” with Julia Roberts. My past experience with romantic comedies from these actors was how I came to rent the movie, “He’s just not that into you” the DVD box had a picture of Drew Barrymore in a collage which included Jennifer Aniston andJennifer Connelly. Although I’m not a fan of Aniston or Connelly they are easy on the eyes and good actors.

The movie was mildly entertaining, all the performers did good jobs, but the view presented of the mating dance taking place between twenty and thirty something’s was depressing. A great deal of the action takes place around the efforts of one girl to find Mr. Right, another to get the guy she’s been shacking with for seven years to marry her and yet another to work out problems in her marriage with a cheating husband.

Ginnifer Goodwin is the girl trying to find Mr. Right that always seems to wind up stalking Mr. Wrong. Fortunately, she strikes up a conversation with a local bartender, played by Justin Long, who tells her the most obvious truth there is about men, “If he doesn’t call, common sense dictates, he’s just not into you.” Goodwin decides that, except for the occasional exception to the rule, there is merit in common sense and adopts a new approach in her dealings and attitude toward men.

Jennifer Aniston and Ben Affleck are the couple happily shacking. Although satisfied with her live-in boyfriend, Aniston wants the commitment of marriage. Affleck is dead set against changing the relationship. I kept thinking, “Where is this girl’s mother” while watching Aniston and Affleck argue the pro’s and con’s of getting married. I can imagine what many mothers might say, “Honey, why should a man buy the cow if the milk is free?” Again, the common sense approach of determining what she wanted from the relationship was not considered, before creating a play pen, with her boyfriend.

Jennifer Connelly’s husband, Bradley Cooper, was a faithful and loyal married man until he met Scarlett Johansson while waiting in line at a grocery store check out. The attraction was powerful on both sides but Cooper’s character fought the temptation and passed up on the opportunity to get Scarlett’s phone number. He made the mistake of giving her his business card and the beautiful young vixen, challenged by his self control, began her pursuit. Long story short, she seduced him. The wronged wife tried to save the marriage but it was hopeless, she was a Cadillac attempting to out run a Ferrari f40. As my grand kids would say, “it is what it is” Connelly decided to dump the cheating husband and get on with her life.

My wife believes the writer accurately portrayed the dating rituals and behavior of the cultural group depicted in the movie. I believe the author exaggerated the interaction of the characters for dramatic and comedic effect. If the wife is correct, common sense and self esteem play little or no role in today’s mating behavior of single young adults.

Although I have enjoyed romantic comedies, in the past, I hope the writer’s portrayal of the movies characters and wrong-headed choices was a caricature of real life and nothing more.

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Calvin Johnson is a Certified General Real Estate Appraiser with 27 years of appraisal and mortgage lending experience. He is currently Chief Appraiser and President of Home Pro, Inc. Northville, Michigan. Mr Johnson is a Magna Cum Laude graduate of American Intercontinental University’s renowned, School of Business Hoffman Estates, Illinois, where he earned a Bachelor’s degree in Business Administration.